nickle
03-17-2001, 02:01 AM
hey there all. this will probably be a long post and some of it may be hard to understand since it is based on personal emotion and not on intellectual thought. i would however really appreciate the input from your side. and ill try and make this as clear as i can.
i had an very unpleasant experience today. though i think it may have finally opened my eyes to alot of things i didnt enjoy it very much.
i was talking to a friend of mine(also a martial artist beginner like myself). we were chatting about various things to do with kung fu. one of the main themes in the conversation was stepping in on fights, involving our friends. we were both sortof saying that if our friends were in a fight we would probably step in and either beat the hell out of the guys opposing our friend, or at least try to dissolve the situation. we were also discussing courage and decided that a good definition of it was "doing the right thing even when your scared sh*tless." as its easy to see, this conversation was basically an intellectual discussion, since neither of us have really ever been in fights or had to do anything about fights (other than discuss them)since high school. we both have been in situations where we were ready to fight for our friends but have never had to actually go through with it.
while we were talking a largish bunch of teenagers probably about 17-19 years old were starting to push each other around and point fingers etc in a kind of school boy fashion. ive always been happy to watch fights and since ive started martial arts ive always kind of wished that i would get to see one. not a life or death situation but just a schoolboy fight to see the real thing again (long time since i last did this) as usual there was a lot of machostuff going on and basically it ended in people shaking hands and being pseudo friends.
after i started martial arts i started thinking of myself as a good person who has a deeper understanding of my life and my purpose and so on. i like to think that i would step in for my friends in a bad situation and stand up for them, just because they are people i enjoy. id like to think im a loyal friend and family memeber.
anyway, the next thing we knew about 10 of these teenagers started walking past us about 2-3 meters away. one of them (about 19 years old) started shouting "What the F*ck" and began punching a younger kid (probably 16 maybe even 14 i dont know.) in the back of the head from behind before he knew what was happening The kid started wimpering something about being sorry and i think i may actually have thought:cool i get to see a fight.
the kid fell over after he turned around and got hit a couple of times. two other guys probably about 19-20, big guys, started kicking him on the floor. at this point i started feeling sick. one of the older guys kicked the kid in the face really hard, and i got up and walked away.
so whats the moral of the story? i dont know, but even telling it now a good couple of hours later, i am shaking slightly. at the time i felt like i was going to throw up, i was shaking and felt empty. my friend had the balls to tell a couple of cops we saw a minute or two later. i didnt.Reality sure is different to intellectual discussion.
basically what i want to know, from you, is whether we as martial artists who have, even in my case as a beginner, a better chance in a fight, a real fight, where peoples teeth get kicked in, to step in and try to do something. i know that i do have this duty to my family. i know i have this duty to my friends. but what about a 16 year old probably innocent kid who is going to be beaten up and will probably have to go to the hospital tonight. Even though i know i have these duties to my family and friends i dont know if i would actually step in.
the one thing i dont want to hear from you is "if i was ever in that situation i would have......." i also thought about it, and discussed it, but when a push becomes a kick the face my veiws changed on the spot.
Im not glad that kid got beaten up, but im glad i was there, because i learnt something about myself that i didnt know. i am not a couragous person. and i need to think about why i am doing kung fu. i need to think about what i would have done if that kid had been my 13 year old brother.
thanks for taking the time to read this.
Nickle.
-specialization is for ants-
i had an very unpleasant experience today. though i think it may have finally opened my eyes to alot of things i didnt enjoy it very much.
i was talking to a friend of mine(also a martial artist beginner like myself). we were chatting about various things to do with kung fu. one of the main themes in the conversation was stepping in on fights, involving our friends. we were both sortof saying that if our friends were in a fight we would probably step in and either beat the hell out of the guys opposing our friend, or at least try to dissolve the situation. we were also discussing courage and decided that a good definition of it was "doing the right thing even when your scared sh*tless." as its easy to see, this conversation was basically an intellectual discussion, since neither of us have really ever been in fights or had to do anything about fights (other than discuss them)since high school. we both have been in situations where we were ready to fight for our friends but have never had to actually go through with it.
while we were talking a largish bunch of teenagers probably about 17-19 years old were starting to push each other around and point fingers etc in a kind of school boy fashion. ive always been happy to watch fights and since ive started martial arts ive always kind of wished that i would get to see one. not a life or death situation but just a schoolboy fight to see the real thing again (long time since i last did this) as usual there was a lot of machostuff going on and basically it ended in people shaking hands and being pseudo friends.
after i started martial arts i started thinking of myself as a good person who has a deeper understanding of my life and my purpose and so on. i like to think that i would step in for my friends in a bad situation and stand up for them, just because they are people i enjoy. id like to think im a loyal friend and family memeber.
anyway, the next thing we knew about 10 of these teenagers started walking past us about 2-3 meters away. one of them (about 19 years old) started shouting "What the F*ck" and began punching a younger kid (probably 16 maybe even 14 i dont know.) in the back of the head from behind before he knew what was happening The kid started wimpering something about being sorry and i think i may actually have thought:cool i get to see a fight.
the kid fell over after he turned around and got hit a couple of times. two other guys probably about 19-20, big guys, started kicking him on the floor. at this point i started feeling sick. one of the older guys kicked the kid in the face really hard, and i got up and walked away.
so whats the moral of the story? i dont know, but even telling it now a good couple of hours later, i am shaking slightly. at the time i felt like i was going to throw up, i was shaking and felt empty. my friend had the balls to tell a couple of cops we saw a minute or two later. i didnt.Reality sure is different to intellectual discussion.
basically what i want to know, from you, is whether we as martial artists who have, even in my case as a beginner, a better chance in a fight, a real fight, where peoples teeth get kicked in, to step in and try to do something. i know that i do have this duty to my family. i know i have this duty to my friends. but what about a 16 year old probably innocent kid who is going to be beaten up and will probably have to go to the hospital tonight. Even though i know i have these duties to my family and friends i dont know if i would actually step in.
the one thing i dont want to hear from you is "if i was ever in that situation i would have......." i also thought about it, and discussed it, but when a push becomes a kick the face my veiws changed on the spot.
Im not glad that kid got beaten up, but im glad i was there, because i learnt something about myself that i didnt know. i am not a couragous person. and i need to think about why i am doing kung fu. i need to think about what i would have done if that kid had been my 13 year old brother.
thanks for taking the time to read this.
Nickle.
-specialization is for ants-