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Vash
03-27-2004, 07:04 PM
posted over at Uechi-Ryu.com (http://forums.uechi-ryu.com/viewtopic.php?t=11525)



Saving Face:


“Saving Face” is one of the most important street commandments that most street predators and thugs consider sacrosanct. If at anytime you challenge a person’s “face” either verbally and or physically, you are likely going to be in for a fight. This is even truer if the person you are challenging has a peer group as an audience looking on. Allowing one to “save face” during the pre-contact phase can also offer a tactical advantage that you can take advantage of, here’s an example of what I mean:


Last year I was dispatched to attend a local high school for a report of a group of youths drinking. It was graduation and the student body was celebrating in the schools parking lot, something I did when I graduated as well many years ago. When I arrived I noted that the group was about 120 students. After calling for backup, we proceeded to walk into the group who were now dissipating. Within this group I observed a smaller group of ten males who considered themselves a gang. One of these gang members had a number of warrants for his arrest but I also knew that if I went into his crew to pull him out the fight would be on due to the fact that he would need to save face.

Proper Pre Planning Prevents **** Poor Performance, knowing that this gang member would need to save face I came up with my plan of attack. I called him over to my location that was out or ear shot of his crew, but yet his crew could still watch the both of us.

I explained to this gang member that there were several warrants for his arrest and like it or not he would have to come with me. I further advised him that if he did not come voluntarily, I would have to physically retrain him which could result in injury. After advising the gang member of this fact, he looked at me and stated, “ LARS if I don’t fight you when I get out of court tomorrow my crew will beat me.”

Understanding this fact (saving face) I used it to my advantage. I advised the gang member that he had two options:

1. To resist my arrest which would likely result in him getting hurt and loosing face in front of his crew, or;
2. If he allowed me to hook him up, after the second handcuff was applied he could call me every name in the book. He could yell, scream, tug, and pull but he could not physically strike me in any way.

Upon giving this guy the above two options he stated; “ if I call you a #####ing pig you won’t smoke me.” It was at this point that I knew I had him and that he would be compliant with my arrest. After weighing his two options for approximately twenty seconds the gang member stated; “okay Lars I will turn around and let you handcuff me.

As the guy turned around to allow me to handcuff, his crew began to show all kind of pre-assaultive signs, but as soon as I got the second handcuff on the gang member went into show mode calling me every name in the book, pulling, tugging, and resisting me in my attempts to escort him to may car. Upon seeing this his crew started cheering his actions yelling and screaming the fact that this guy was going to kick my ass once I got his back to cells.

Once back at the car, I shoved the guy in at which time he continued to put on the show kicking both the inside door and back window of my cruiser while yelling and screaming at the top of his lungs. His crew was still cheering his actions. Once we got a block away out of view of his crew, this gang member immediately stopped all his actions and said; “Thanks Lars.”

Why did he say this?, because I allowed him to save face in a difficult situation in front of his crew, which allowed for a win/win situation. He got what he wanted, and I got what I wanted.


Remember:

DO NOT CHALLENGE SOMEONE’S FACE, AND WHEREVER POSSIBLE ALLOW OTHERS TO SAVE FACE



One has to be careful with the eye glare on the street as often it is seen to be a “CHALLENGE”. Known as “EYEBALLING” here on our streets, it is a lure that is often used to invoke a confrontation.

Having said this, if one is now going to engage physically, the eye glare can be a strong psychological asset to invoke a tactical brain **** in one’s threat that can be exploited.


So I guess my answer(s) is…….. it depends upon context of application.

themeecer
03-27-2004, 10:51 PM
That's pretty awesome.

Brings something to mind. Although it is normally not wise for the head master of a school to fight challenges in front of his students, what would your actions be if you were the challenger in this case and you were winning? I contemplated this fact a while back when talking with someone that has their own school and asked me down to spar with them sometime.

What would you do in this hypothetical situation?

Bluesman
03-28-2004, 08:31 AM
Some things could be like the one of the Hindu Gods, the Juggernault. The Juggernault itself was a large wooden God with wheels that was pushed down a steep hill. People would run with it and a few would be killed by it. It seems as once it got started nothing could stop it for it crushed anything in its path.
Maybe at times we all create our own Juggernault in our own blind beliefs only to be destroyed by it.
I also believe in cause and effect. If there is situation that somehow was caused by us and we are now reaping its effects? And how many mis-understandings have escalated into something else? Do any of us care what each of us think about us on here if it is for the wrong reason?
As this is only my opinion, is this why we train? For this? All this hatred does no one any good. Maybe because I am soon to turn 43 that I see things from another view then when I was 23. Dare say that maybe I am growing up finally.

themeecer
03-28-2004, 08:50 AM
That's pretty awesome.

Brings something to mind. Although it is normally not wise for the head master of a school to fight challenges in front of his students, what would your actions be if you were the challenger in this case and you were winning? I contemplated this fact a while back when talking with someone that has their own school and asked me down to spar with them sometime.

What would you do in this hypothetical situation?

David Jamieson
03-28-2004, 09:43 AM
If someone asks you for a friendly exchange, then you could oblige them or opt out. It's not a challenge, it's an offer of an exchange.

I would take any offer like this because i value learning from others in a real live environment.

If someone gets in your face or attacks you, then do your best to defeat them. That's all; you can do. If you lose you lose, so what, that's life.

The whole idea of face is about chest pounding anyway. It's not "for real".

If someone outright challenges you and they are within easy reach, then do your best to make it so they get ktfo. :D

cheers

TaiChiBob
03-28-2004, 10:07 AM
Greetings..

If i am invited to someone else's school for a friendly match.. i will always yield, i will test their sensitivity, i will test their skill, and.. even if i am so fortunate as to gain the advantage, i will yield.. i have nothing to gain by embarassing someone on their home turf.. and much to lose.. if i have more experience, if my skills are working well that day, i will match my opponent's efforts, keep it evenly balanced and yield in their favor when it's appropriate.. on neutral ground i expect both parties to demonstrate knowledge and skill, and to demonstrate respect.. even on neutral ground i would only use sufficient skill to deflect, uproot and illustrate effectiveness.. never go beyond what is necessary to satisfy the situation.. (always keep a reserve).. i always try to give someone an honorable way out of any situation..

Be well...

SevenStar
03-28-2004, 10:12 AM
His account seems backwards to me. Here's why - he supposedly saved face by fighting AFTER he got cuffed?

That's punkish. that's like when two people are about to fight, and when people come between them, one says something like "yeah, you're lucky he's holding me back, or I'd kick ya punk, ***** ass!" If you thought you could, you shoulda done it or at least have been talking smack BEFORE somebody ended it.

IMO, the way that altercation shoulda happened is the guy shoulda resisted, then gotten cuffed. getting cuffed quietly then making noise after makes him look like a punk in my eyes.

SevenStar
03-28-2004, 10:28 AM
Originally posted by themeecer
That's pretty awesome.

Brings something to mind. Although it is normally not wise for the head master of a school to fight challenges in front of his students, what would your actions be if you were the challenger in this case and you were winning? I contemplated this fact a while back when talking with someone that has their own school and asked me down to spar with them sometime.

What would you do in this hypothetical situation?

This is where some difference between TMA and MMA mentality begin to show. Where I train now, this would not be an issue. My MT coach has fights all the time, as do my BJJ coaches, who have fought pro a few times. They win some, they lose some. It happens. My judo coach was third in the world a few years agou - if someone challenges him and beats him it doesn't change the fact that he was one of the best in the world - it just means that on that particular day, he got bested.

Now, when I was in TMA that would've been unheard of. I can guarantee you the challenge would happen in private, and the results would likely not be disclosed. Why? because he doesn't fight. He's talked about having challenges before, and also about some full contact matches he'd had, but I've never seen any footage, no trophies or medals, other than point and form tournies, etc. He had plenty of skill, but I've never seen it used outside of the kwoon.

The closest we've come was in the kwoon one day, a buddy of mine came in - we both trained longfist together, and started bjj at the same time - he grappled with sifu and triangle choked him. Afterwards, the face saving began - he walked through a reversal he would use to get out of it - it was no big deal to us - you can't win them all. But there are students there that think he's unbeatable. Consequently, if he were to have a public challenge or even fight in a full contact match and lose, he'd lose face in their eyes.

Ray Pina
03-29-2004, 11:12 AM
Here's more stuff like that: http://members.shaw.ca/tmanifold/laur.htm

IronFist
03-29-2004, 11:29 AM
Originally posted by SevenStar
His account seems backwards to me. Here's why - he supposedly saved face by fighting AFTER he got cuffed?

norther practitioner
03-29-2004, 01:42 PM
This has been posted here before.

David Jamieson
03-29-2004, 02:20 PM
sevenstar, your posts are sensible, your post fu is getting better. :D LOL

themeecer
03-29-2004, 03:22 PM
Originally posted by TaiChiBob
Greetings..

If i am invited to someone else's school for a friendly match.. i will always yield, i will test their sensitivity, i will test their skill, and.. even if i am so fortunate as to gain the advantage, i will yield.. i have nothing to gain by embarassing someone on their home turf.. and much to lose.. if i have more experience, if my skills are working well that day, i will match my opponent's efforts, keep it evenly balanced and yield in their favor when it's appropriate.. on neutral ground i expect both parties to demonstrate knowledge and skill, and to demonstrate respect.. even on neutral ground i would only use sufficient skill to deflect, uproot and illustrate effectiveness.. never go beyond what is necessary to satisfy the situation.. (always keep a reserve).. i always try to give someone an honorable way out of any situation..

Be well...
You're a good man taichibob .... I would prefer to act in the same way. And I hope I still could even if the teacher I am up against was talking smack or got a little (c)ocky.

David Jamieson
03-29-2004, 03:34 PM
a friendly crossing of hands is just that. THere is no needto worry about anything and no face is going to be lost.

If someone goes "jerk" on you, then it is within the bounds of reason to up the ante.

For instance, if someone gets a little out of control in a sparring session, then it is ok (in my eyes) to dump them and put them in a compromised position so that they understand that it is "sparring" and not "fighting".

THis is all too common in kwoons and dojos where some d.ick in class turns a learning experience into a competition.

How do i know this? I have been that d.ick in class.

I have also learned since then.

i also know that you should assess each situation for what it is. safe is safe, bad is bad, if it's safe be nice play nice, if it's bad then be as bad as you can be, measuring force at that point is a useless exercise unless you are a master of extreme power and those for the most part only exist in comic books :D

cheers

Unmatchable
03-30-2004, 01:40 AM
I don't know if this is true with anyone else but I have a hard time saying "What you looking at" or "what" or "quit starring", my eyes automatically shift after a sec of glaring even if he was already glaring first. I feel like a ***** but cant break the cycle.

SevenStar
03-30-2004, 06:00 AM
DON'T say that. That would be worse than just continuing to stare back at them. Unless you WANT your arse beat... in that case, yeah, go ahead and say it.

TaiChiBob
03-30-2004, 06:54 AM
Greetings..

Saving face is a concept that puts an option on the table that permits potential conflict to defuse itself.. it gives the players a chance to walk away.. if either player is intent on conflict the option will be of no use, but.. it is the signature of a mature person and sets the person offering the option in a better position to defend their actions if the option is refused..

Violence should be our LAST option, the concept of saving face should be the safety valve that preserves everyone's health.. once refused, though.. the dedication and long hours of training should be utilized to neutralize the situation.. neither should we be judge and jury, handing out justice and punishment according to individual beliefs.. neutralize the situation and let the current social order do its thing, let the legal system (however misguided) speak for society's current concept of justice.. if we abandon social order, quality of life will surely deteriorate.. MA should stand for something, something beneficial to all.. if it is just a way to learn how to defeat others with no redeeming social value, it will only add to the chaos already threatening civilization... I expect some will scoff at this and tell us of how it is ONLY used to make one more capable of destroying others.. but, i hope it is more than that.. i hope we are more than that..

Be well..