BornToKill
07-28-2005, 09:39 PM
Here is what my disease is:
"Generalized anxiety disorder is a relatively common anxiety problem, affecting 3-4% of the population, that turns daily life into a state of worry, anxiety, and fear. Excessive thinking and dwelling on the "what ifs" characterizes this anxiety disorder. As a result, the person feels there's no way out of the vicious cycle of anxiety and worry, and then becomes depressed about life and the state of anxiety they find themselves in."
http://www.anxietynetwork.com/gawhat.html#top
Laely I noticed that I subconsiously avoid conflict and show fear without realizing it. For instance I was goign into my car and saw a teenage skateboarding gang in front of it getting out of their car and trying to park it. I got in mine without them bothering me but when I tried to move out of the parking spot they stood inf ront of me and instead of honking (like was my first thought) instinct told me that this could **** them off so I just calmly told them "can you move out of the way". Only one or two mvoed and one I think stayed. This showed that the one wanted to probably test me or fight me in front of his friends. I than realized "why was I scared of him, I am tougher/fight begtter/and have nothing to lose by fighting him or even all his friends" but subconsiously mky mind and body always avoid fights and confrontations for some reason, and I am soft. I am trying to change this personality right now. Another thing is No matter how many times a hot woman walks by me it seems they don't even glance at me and pretend I dont exist or purposly try to avoid eye contact with me, and when they do make it I am too much of a coward to say anything, especially with other people around. And no matter how good I look or I feel I can never say anything and just keep walking. I feel like a coward, and later feel hateful toward myself and the world aorund me. This also translates into other aspects of my life, like I cant train or hit punching bags cause I get depressed thinking about my life, and realize no matter how tough or strong ill be ill still be a coward. This isnt just with women, I have a hard time being mean to people or telling people off in the real world without feeling extremly guilty or just not doing it. I also have a hard time setting boundaries to prevent people from walking all over me.
I often leave this cycle and am in a happy place in my life but than I don't do something I want to do, sort of a personal test. Like I mentioned I tried telling myself to go approach a woman and everytime I backed out just before I did it, than I fell back into this anxiety. Ive had previous experience like this with people being rude to me and me not reacting rudely back or with agression, this I began to consider msyelf weak and again fell back into this anxiety.
I tell myself to aproach a woman not necessairly to get laid but just to test my will or courage, but if I dont do it (which I never do) I go back into feeling like a punk. Its with other thngs as well, for instance I used to try to get into bars depsite being under 21 to test my courage even though I felt emabrassed and knew I would be turned down or looked at weird, it became easier over time and I could eventually do it easy, but things always were hard in regards to women and other things. For instance I wanted to test myself by grabbing someone for any reason, but I just cant grab people and get over the phsyical barrier, even if theyd eserve it, although I did do it once with great hesitation when my security was at risk. Another thing is argueing back, and nto letting people run over me, its often too late and I feel I was already punked. I just want to do it not to someone for nothing for someone for saying something mean to me or staring me down (like alot of people try to), because I will know that if I am in a situation like prison where I have to show toughness I can intimidate someone if I have to. I just want to do it once to see if I can. In high school some guy slapped me a few times in the face and I was too embarassed to do anything and was punked, and I dont ever want stuff like that to happen to me again, I want to be tough and ruthless. The thing is I was bullied and punked by various people throught my life and thats part of the reason I started training martial arts (boxing, muay thai, judo, etc.) but no matter how good of a fighter I get I still have the psychological issues that make me mentally weak and I think easy to punk out.
One thing I am afraid of is if I get intimidated easily. If someone causes violence against me or beats me up and I wont lift a finger but just stand there and take it because of fear of embarassment if i acted violently back or because of my passiveness. Or if I see someone get assaulted/raped/etc. I will just stand there and not do anything or walk by and ignore it.
"Generalized anxiety disorder is a relatively common anxiety problem, affecting 3-4% of the population, that turns daily life into a state of worry, anxiety, and fear. Excessive thinking and dwelling on the "what ifs" characterizes this anxiety disorder. As a result, the person feels there's no way out of the vicious cycle of anxiety and worry, and then becomes depressed about life and the state of anxiety they find themselves in."
http://www.anxietynetwork.com/gawhat.html#top
Laely I noticed that I subconsiously avoid conflict and show fear without realizing it. For instance I was goign into my car and saw a teenage skateboarding gang in front of it getting out of their car and trying to park it. I got in mine without them bothering me but when I tried to move out of the parking spot they stood inf ront of me and instead of honking (like was my first thought) instinct told me that this could **** them off so I just calmly told them "can you move out of the way". Only one or two mvoed and one I think stayed. This showed that the one wanted to probably test me or fight me in front of his friends. I than realized "why was I scared of him, I am tougher/fight begtter/and have nothing to lose by fighting him or even all his friends" but subconsiously mky mind and body always avoid fights and confrontations for some reason, and I am soft. I am trying to change this personality right now. Another thing is No matter how many times a hot woman walks by me it seems they don't even glance at me and pretend I dont exist or purposly try to avoid eye contact with me, and when they do make it I am too much of a coward to say anything, especially with other people around. And no matter how good I look or I feel I can never say anything and just keep walking. I feel like a coward, and later feel hateful toward myself and the world aorund me. This also translates into other aspects of my life, like I cant train or hit punching bags cause I get depressed thinking about my life, and realize no matter how tough or strong ill be ill still be a coward. This isnt just with women, I have a hard time being mean to people or telling people off in the real world without feeling extremly guilty or just not doing it. I also have a hard time setting boundaries to prevent people from walking all over me.
I often leave this cycle and am in a happy place in my life but than I don't do something I want to do, sort of a personal test. Like I mentioned I tried telling myself to go approach a woman and everytime I backed out just before I did it, than I fell back into this anxiety. Ive had previous experience like this with people being rude to me and me not reacting rudely back or with agression, this I began to consider msyelf weak and again fell back into this anxiety.
I tell myself to aproach a woman not necessairly to get laid but just to test my will or courage, but if I dont do it (which I never do) I go back into feeling like a punk. Its with other thngs as well, for instance I used to try to get into bars depsite being under 21 to test my courage even though I felt emabrassed and knew I would be turned down or looked at weird, it became easier over time and I could eventually do it easy, but things always were hard in regards to women and other things. For instance I wanted to test myself by grabbing someone for any reason, but I just cant grab people and get over the phsyical barrier, even if theyd eserve it, although I did do it once with great hesitation when my security was at risk. Another thing is argueing back, and nto letting people run over me, its often too late and I feel I was already punked. I just want to do it not to someone for nothing for someone for saying something mean to me or staring me down (like alot of people try to), because I will know that if I am in a situation like prison where I have to show toughness I can intimidate someone if I have to. I just want to do it once to see if I can. In high school some guy slapped me a few times in the face and I was too embarassed to do anything and was punked, and I dont ever want stuff like that to happen to me again, I want to be tough and ruthless. The thing is I was bullied and punked by various people throught my life and thats part of the reason I started training martial arts (boxing, muay thai, judo, etc.) but no matter how good of a fighter I get I still have the psychological issues that make me mentally weak and I think easy to punk out.
One thing I am afraid of is if I get intimidated easily. If someone causes violence against me or beats me up and I wont lift a finger but just stand there and take it because of fear of embarassment if i acted violently back or because of my passiveness. Or if I see someone get assaulted/raped/etc. I will just stand there and not do anything or walk by and ignore it.