Ryu
01-14-2002, 01:25 AM
The Hockey Dad ground and pound thing has scared me somewhat. Not that someone will do it to me (actually had someone do it to me once before I knew any grappling) but that I will do it to someone and hurt them MUCH worse than I had wanted to...or was expecting to.
I have always had "doubts" about myself when it came to martial arts. I suppose my childhood days were very awkward, kinda ****y, and I somewhat lived in a fantasy world about my abilities. I wanted them bad, but didn't train for them. Now things are completely different in my life. I train hard, I have decend sized muscles, and I am very good with women. Physically I guess I've "gotten" what I wanted when I was that young awkward kid. However I still doubt myself, and constantly "spar" with myself to fight them down. The weird thing is this. It's not like I don't work hard.... I trained in BJJ for at least 2 years with some guys when I got out of high school, then spent a year in a Machado school where I sparred almost everyday with people kicking my butt left and right.....until I started being able to kick their butts a little bit too! :D Then I spent went back to my judo training, and reached brown belt level (I'm gonna continue that too) I've rolled with every conceivable sized person. Rolled with guys who couldn't touch me at all to guys who just destroyed me on the ground. I've had challenge matches with different styles, kung fu, muay thai, boxing, streetfighting, and I've won every single one. But I always doubt myself. Obviously if you doubt yourself because you don't "test" yourself it's your subconscious trying to let you know maybe...but what about if you do test yourself? I don't want to be a cage fighter...and I don't want to train like one either... (6 hours a day, 7 days a week of just fighting and bleeding) But I do train pretty **** hard.
My last friendly challenge match with a friend of mine who boxed and had many streetfights ended up with me as the winner (I was never in any trouble) left me with a disappointment because I allowed him to get a headlock/choke on me when I mounted him. I broke out of it, and submitted him, but in my head I was more focused on the fact that he had me in a headlock than I was about my armlock that made him tap!! :eek: Is that just perfectionism?? I suppose it's good because it makes you think about how you can always improve yourself...but this leads me into my point. I think I have too much of these "healthy doubts" and they are becoming unhealthy...I'm fighting them. I want only the strongest, most effective ways of fighting...and I train boxing, clinching, throwing, grappling, and ground and pound.
My fear is this.... I'm not sure if I even know how strong or not I am anymore... I picture my opponent as a killer, but how do I really know? How do I know that if I ground and pound someone bigger than me, that I won't kill him?? I almost expect that he wouldn't be phased, and just escape, and get back to his feet, ready to kill me......so I train it hard to put power in it...damaging power, overkill..... But what if the guy can't escape, and I pummel someone and they die? It's obviously real. It obviously has happened :(
I don't do that to people who aren't a threat. I got into a fight at work with a smaller guy than myself, and all I did was pin him down on the ground, mount, and put my fist back like I was going to punch. And he stopped. And I stopped too. Obviously I wouldn't do it to someone I felt wasn't able to hurt me...but what about the people I DO feel can hurt me? What if they turn out to be "weaker" than I thought?
I don't know...I know I can control too, and I have other techniques at my disposal. But sometimes I just wonder. How much of these "little doubts" help, and how much can put you in danger of "not knowing your own strength?"
What do you think?
Ryu
I have always had "doubts" about myself when it came to martial arts. I suppose my childhood days were very awkward, kinda ****y, and I somewhat lived in a fantasy world about my abilities. I wanted them bad, but didn't train for them. Now things are completely different in my life. I train hard, I have decend sized muscles, and I am very good with women. Physically I guess I've "gotten" what I wanted when I was that young awkward kid. However I still doubt myself, and constantly "spar" with myself to fight them down. The weird thing is this. It's not like I don't work hard.... I trained in BJJ for at least 2 years with some guys when I got out of high school, then spent a year in a Machado school where I sparred almost everyday with people kicking my butt left and right.....until I started being able to kick their butts a little bit too! :D Then I spent went back to my judo training, and reached brown belt level (I'm gonna continue that too) I've rolled with every conceivable sized person. Rolled with guys who couldn't touch me at all to guys who just destroyed me on the ground. I've had challenge matches with different styles, kung fu, muay thai, boxing, streetfighting, and I've won every single one. But I always doubt myself. Obviously if you doubt yourself because you don't "test" yourself it's your subconscious trying to let you know maybe...but what about if you do test yourself? I don't want to be a cage fighter...and I don't want to train like one either... (6 hours a day, 7 days a week of just fighting and bleeding) But I do train pretty **** hard.
My last friendly challenge match with a friend of mine who boxed and had many streetfights ended up with me as the winner (I was never in any trouble) left me with a disappointment because I allowed him to get a headlock/choke on me when I mounted him. I broke out of it, and submitted him, but in my head I was more focused on the fact that he had me in a headlock than I was about my armlock that made him tap!! :eek: Is that just perfectionism?? I suppose it's good because it makes you think about how you can always improve yourself...but this leads me into my point. I think I have too much of these "healthy doubts" and they are becoming unhealthy...I'm fighting them. I want only the strongest, most effective ways of fighting...and I train boxing, clinching, throwing, grappling, and ground and pound.
My fear is this.... I'm not sure if I even know how strong or not I am anymore... I picture my opponent as a killer, but how do I really know? How do I know that if I ground and pound someone bigger than me, that I won't kill him?? I almost expect that he wouldn't be phased, and just escape, and get back to his feet, ready to kill me......so I train it hard to put power in it...damaging power, overkill..... But what if the guy can't escape, and I pummel someone and they die? It's obviously real. It obviously has happened :(
I don't do that to people who aren't a threat. I got into a fight at work with a smaller guy than myself, and all I did was pin him down on the ground, mount, and put my fist back like I was going to punch. And he stopped. And I stopped too. Obviously I wouldn't do it to someone I felt wasn't able to hurt me...but what about the people I DO feel can hurt me? What if they turn out to be "weaker" than I thought?
I don't know...I know I can control too, and I have other techniques at my disposal. But sometimes I just wonder. How much of these "little doubts" help, and how much can put you in danger of "not knowing your own strength?"
What do you think?
Ryu