the book chief fox mentioned is very good. i also liked these two alot as i like the budhist approach to emotions in general:
http://www.amazon.com/Places-that-Sc...e=UTF8&s=books
http://www.amazon.com/Anger-Thich-Nh...e=UTF8&s=books
my friend got me one and recommended the other. i felt bad at first, because when i opened the gift and saw "the places that scare you" on the cover i actually lold irl. i thought it was a joke. now that ****er sits on my headboard as one of the books ill pull out and read random passages out of before going to sleep. you really have to keep an open mind when reading the one by hanh as well. the way it was worded, about treating your anger like a baby and **** liek that, almost caused me to stop reading it after a few chapters. but ill be ****ed if some of the **** that little ****er wrote didnt hit me like a ton of bricks when i'd get ****ed. tonight i threw a printer. i still have a lot of work to do ... but if it werent for some of this reading throwing the printer would have just sparked me to break more and more ****. instead i realized what was happening and i went and took a shower to calm down before things got worse.