I agree to an extent, if there is a military couple (married) the chances of being "over there" are pretty slim. In order for a man to watch his wife be killed by gun fire (in this particular instance) they would have to be in the same job, and same shift under the same supervision, which does not happen. If it does it is poor management. However I am speaking strickly from an Air Force veiwpoint.
David, I'm not trying to start something, I'm just speaking from experience. In the current amount of time I've been in (short 5 years) I've worked quite a few married coupples in the same job however diffrent offices and they have been deployed at diffrent times. Right at this moment I have 4 people in my office alone that are married to military but they have diffrent jobs.