Ms. Stearns, I'll answer your question as seriously as I can.

As you have found out (the hard way), the kung fu man provides an different sort of challenge.

We kung fu artists work the MIND more than we work the body.

For you to have any such impact on such a fellow, you must probe this man's psyche to find a weakness.

Because this man patronizes you, my feeling is that this man WANTS you to find his weakness.

It very well could be that this man gains pleasure from SEEING YOU STRUGGLE!

Whether or not you choose to satisfy him in this way is up to you.