thank you all for the above replies.
I have gotten use to being hit (not that much fun) but it has also showed me how to block. I tend to be somewhat hesitant to throw a punch or kick and so then I know that my body language is completely readable. There is just so much to think about when you are face to face with someone. And then, could it be that I am thinking too much? Well, I will take all the suggestions for my next match.