I know what you mean I get the smae way to a point when confronted. Something I've noticed though is I seem to be like that at the start of a problem but once it reaches the point of confrontation weather it be verbal or physical I seem to much, much more smooth and calm as far as the way I feel at least.

I guess it probably has something to do with not being faced with confrontations everyday and only randomly but I wish there were a way to test or train yourself to be more calm at the start of a problem. I would say some kind of good tournament or match would help sand the edges.