Do you give self defense advice to?

[bodhitree]

Your elderly/vulnerable relatives? I have a great aunt who is 86 years old and still walks to the grocery store alone. This is great for her health and the fact that she has that kind of independence is also great. The problem is the grocery store is not in the greatest of neighborhoods and we all know that criminals/drug addicts/ predators prey on the weak. My aunt does not carry a purse (smart move).

My question is:

Do you try to give self defense advice to your friends/loved ones? What kind of advice do you give? I have given my wife some articles to read about awareness and what not, she hardly seems interested.


Any thoughts welcomed.

[sanjuro_ronin]

Your elderly/vulnerable relatives? I have a great aunt who is 86 years old and still walks to the grocery store alone. This is great for her health and the fact that she has that kind of independence is also great. The problem is the grocery store is not in the greatest of neighborhoods and we all know that criminals/drug addicts/ predators prey on the weak. My aunt does not carry a purse (smart move).

My question is:

Do you try to give self defense advice to your friends/loved ones? What kind of advice do you give? I have given my wife some articles to read about awareness and what not, she hardly seems interested.


Any thoughts welcomed.

Hmmmm, I usually start off with, " if its hard enough for someone who is a trained fighter to defend themselvs on the street, what exactly do you think you can do?"

The first step is realization, once they understand, I usually advocate the ol "hit n run" and IF they wanna learn, I set about developing power, without power you can do no damage, no damage means no chance of escape.
Weapons - especially improvised ones become very important.
Mace, the good stuff, works.
Problem with most "tools" is getting to them, that is half the training there.

[xcakid]

I ussually go and teach them how to do the following:

1) handgun safety and how to shoot.
2) buy them a stun gun and/or a folding knife show them basics.
3) show them "soft" areas in the body to attack

I have done this with every girl I have ever dated. I have an ex-GF that went on to shoot competitively. Couple of ex's that went to to MA, not sure how far they got though. My family all know how to shoot and carry various weapons with them at all times. My brother has 5yrs or so of Arnis training and he and my sis in law are currently taking some tai chi classe. Not practical apps though, just health apps. My mom is getting on in age and live in an assisted living apartment. So she pretty much just relies on 911 and property security these days.

[Beginner]

How about hidden needles & spicy oil? They are quite handy...

[Chief Fox]

I don't give advice to to people who have lived for 86 years.

[bodhitree]

I don't give advice to to people who have lived for 86 years.

can't argue with that.

[The Xia]

1) handgun safety and how to shoot.
2) buy them a stun gun and/or a folding knife show them basics.

Of course, the legality of carrying handguns, stun guns, and folding knives varies from place to place.

[Black Jack II]

Yes,

Awareness and pre-conflict as we have talked about here being key but I also give basic advice on striking zones with non-by rote tools being placed in the mix.

Easy gross motor stuff that they may have a shot at remebering.

[xcakid]

Of course, the legality of carrying handguns, stun guns, and folding knives varies from place to place.

True.

That's why I don't live in CA, NJ, NY, MA, MD, and HI

[spaced]

Hmmmm, I usually start off with, " if its hard enough for someone who is a trained fighter to defend themselvs on the street, what exactly do you think you can do?"

The first step is realization, once they understand, I usually advocate the ol "hit n run" and IF they wanna learn, I set about developing power, without power you can do no damage, no damage means no chance of escape.
Weapons - especially improvised ones become very important.
Mace, the good stuff, works.
Problem with most "tools" is getting to them, that is half the training there.

I have to disagree with a portion of your statement there sanjuro. Although power is essential, you do not necessarily need power to cause damage or do something that will aid your escape. Force instead of power can be used to uproot your opponent or trip them over, thus making your escape.

[SanSoo Student]

I have given simple advice to a couple of girlfriends that cared to ask. Usually unarmed rape/assualt defense (because if the person is armed, running is the best thing to do). Like hands up and clawing the eyes, kicking the in-step/knee, kneeing the groin...fast stuff that will allow you to run away.

With the whole discussion on power generation or off-balancing/uprooting, I feel that striking areas of pain that cause the attacker to pause is the best. Like the kick to the inner heel/in-step from a high heel show hurts like hell and that opens it up for other self defense moves. I do stress that the most important thing to prevent is being lifted off the ground like in a bear hug or something like that.

[SevenStar]

sure, but what are the odds of them retaining that info in a high stress situation if they aren't activiely training it?

[boshea]

My question is:

Do you try to give self defense advice to your friends/loved ones? What kind of advice do you give? I have given my wife some articles to read about awareness and what not, she hardly seems interested.


Any thoughts welcomed.

(Off topic but somewhat relevant)

I don't think this man needs advice from anybody.