Hi tai chi hermit,
Chris and Doc have posted some good information, to add a few things:
Hindus use the metaphor of the lotus flower that rises above the sewage it grows in. Life is to be lived, but it can be lived to the fullest when we rise above the superficial behaviors and attitudes that preoccupy the lives of most individuals. To live in the world but not be of the world is the key.
Society may bring with it obstacles, but those obstacles are the measure of development. Obstacles are meant to be overcome. It is easy for a sailor to navigate a calm sea, but a master sailor can also navigate the storms. An enlightened person is unaffected by the world system and rises above it just as the lotus rises about the muck. But remember the muck is the source of the lotus’s roots. Muck is only muck because we call it muck. Inherently there is no muck at all and this is why it is possible to gain realization no matter where we are. As Chris said, it is what you bring to you circumstances that determine your experience. It is your own perception/perspective, that determines whether you are living in muck or not.
Balance is important. There is a time for the world system and a time to retreat from it in order to recalibrate our purpose and restore our energies. When you feel over-stimulated by worldly endeavors that is a sign to retreat for a period of time. Learning to listen to your mind and body’s signals is important. Your mind and body send you the signals, just learn to listen to them and work on balance.
There is an ebb and flow to growth. There is a time of growth and a time of seeming stagnation or loss of gains. These times are built into the system so to speak and are part of the natural process of Tao as illustrated by Yin-Yang.
Do not be discouraged if realization is your goal. It is not a race and there is no necessarily well defined destination. It is likely that where you end up is not where you thought you were going. All this is part of the natural process of Tao. Go with the ride, but try to learn not to push the river, or redirect it to where you think it should go.