Originally Posted by
Pork Chop
I've been trying to think out a response to this for the last couple days.
For me, it was a number of different moments.
First moment was when I was still in my first school, I'd sparred one of the seniors early on and did well. Apparently that event was enough to get him to start training for real. I was learning form after form, working hard every class. Meanwhile, he was hiding out at the fitness gym, working the bag like crazy. Then, the night before I was supposed to fight a kid from school who'd tried to jump me in the parking lot, my senior put a severe beating on me. I think another senior beat me up pretty nicely as well that night. The kid from school ended up running instead of fighting 1 on 1 (3 on 1 was more his style). I was probably lucky that day, coz I think I had a broken foot and I don't think I would've been good in that fight.
Fast forward to college. Worked as a lifeguard. One of my coworkers was real obnoxious. Slept with any thing that moved. Tall lanky dude. He started slap boxing me one day out of the blue, for no reason. He'd never done a martial art in his life; but I couldn't do anything to him. Couldn't touch him. Had no idea what to do. It freaked me out.
Couple years later, started at a different kung fu school in austin. I'd been there a while when one weekend, "friendly" sparring had gone out of the ring. I'd dropped my hands and was about to turn around to reset. Guy I was sparring had come behind me, grabbed my gloves, turned, and spiked me on the floor. I was bleeding from the mouth and couldn't get up for a while, hadn't been able to do anything to break my fall. Instructor said nothing. If anything, I think he wanted the other guy to do it. Only response I got from him was "well that guy was an actual athlete". [Side note: often thought about going back to that school since I moved back to texas; maybe do some "dojo storming". Still a lot of anger there though, and I try to stay away from situations where I'll lose my control.]
Two or three years after that. Another kung fu school, this time in DC. Fighting and forms were unrelated. Fighting was watered down kickboxing to win tournament style "medium contact continuous". Was splitting my time between fighting, lion, and forms; with most of the emphasis on forms. I HATE that format of sparring - either go full or go light. My tournament showings in continuous sparring were pathetic and always frustrating.
Sanshou was much more fun. I trained sanshou at a club that was closer to my house, while still driving an hour to go to the kung fu school in DC. Until; that is, I started getting in trouble for training the sanshou stuff, which led to me quitting the kung fu school. The last time I went, they had me spar everyone in the class, outside, on the street, with shoes on. One of my sihings tore me up pretty good with sidekicks and then accused me of losing my temper when I stalked him, got on the inside and started landing hard shots to his body. One of the newer students kept bum-rushing me, almost tackle style. He made the mistake of doing it when i was mid round kick, made me lose control of the kick. Gave him a black eye and dropped him. Got yelled at pretty good that time.
Even though I got knocked out in my first sanda match; I really didn't have any confidence that was grounded in reality about my fighting skills until I started training the sport stuff full time. Had no concept of what I could do and what I couldn't do.
I do miss the forms sometimes. I miss the lion sometimes. I even miss my classmates sometimes. I may go back some day. But the biggest thing I'm thankful for is not always having that question nagging at the back of my mind about whether or not I can actually use the stuff.
Fighting in traditional styles was always so chaotic. No idea whatsoever about what I should do. Yeah we trained punches and kicks on bags & pads; but knowing when to use what was never really explained. One of the biggest differences was finally having a proven & tested game plan. I think that's due to a mixture of not having enough experience at any one school to really know the principles behind each style's gameplan, poor teaching style, and my own inabilities at the time. I love being able to pick apart an attack or counter and know whether or not it'll work; or at least know what I'll have to keep an eye out for.
Fighting-wise, I don't see myself making any fundamental changes to what I'm doing any time soon.