Great, thanks for the replys. Having read the whole thread again today I can see that I maybe should have mentioned our relationship from the start. Would have saved on confusion.
Given me a bit to think about.
Black Jack. What do you mean by 'SARS'? I guess your not refering to the nasty sniffle thats picking off octogenarians at the moment?
The 'Pillar Assualt' as you describe it is not quite what I mean by 'going easy'. That would be a complete waste of everyone's time. When she is countering I make it difficult for her and challenge her and do not 'gift' myself as you describe. What I meant is that when training with the other lads I will 'test' their ability to receive blows and will throw them reasonably hard, as they do to me. She complains vociferously when this is done to her.