New member looking for some advice

[Edmorian]

We moved away. To a completely rural place with the closest schools at least 30 minutes away. I still live there and the schools are still 30 minutes away. The one I'm interested in is actually 60 minutes away. At 12 years old I could not get there on my own. By time I was old enough to drive it wasn't at the forefront of what I wanted to do, though the idea every few years would resurface that it was something I wanted to do again. I'm just now acting on it. I didn't say I had no time to do it, I just didn't do it. Pure and simple.

[bawang]

decisions we make in life has its consequences.

Which is something I'm looking for, not really something to just do for a few months to a year or two, but for many years to come. Which is why I'm trying to read as much about various martial arts before jumping into one.

there is no more time.

[boxerbilly]

We moved away. To a completely rural place with the closest schools at least 30 minutes away. I still live there and the schools are still 30 minutes away. The one I'm interested in is actually 60 minutes away. At 12 years old I could not get there on my own. By time I was old enough to drive it wasn't at the forefront of what I wanted to do, though the idea every few years would resurface that it was something I wanted to do again. I'm just now acting on it. I didn't say I had no time to do it, I just didn't do it. Pure and simple.

I'm not sure what Bawang meant by no more time? Obviously at that time there was no real interest for you. So it would have been a waste of time to have been anyplace for this.

Don't worry so much about what's the best, most legitimate this or that. Someone will always come along and say that school sucks.

If you decide on a particular school. Go learn for whatever your reasons may be. It's time now.

[GeneChing]

I'm not sure what Bawang meant

None of us are ever really sure what Bawang meant, but that doesn't reduce the entertainment value of his posts.

[Kymus]

None of us are ever really sure what Bawang meant, but that doesn't reduce the entertainment value of his posts.

I find that I can't take Bawang seriously when he's not trolling

[ShortBridge]

First of all, congratulations on your weight loss, that's a fantastic accomplishment and I wish you all the best in your future health.

I'm going to leave my bias out of this entirely and suggest this: It appears that he teaches a few distinct things at this school. I would say exactly what you said to us to him and ask if you can observe or try each of the things he teaches with the intent of becoming a student of one of them. That's better than anything we can say. You know yourself best and how they teach something is maybe as important as what it is, so experiencing it is your best information. He may have an opinion, I'd listen to it, he's taught ... I don't know ... 1,000 people, if he has an observation based on your story, it may be valid.

I don't want to argue with previous posters, but I wouldn't assume that you can cobble together a better system for yourself than the ones that he is offering. Pick one and go with it, look up in a few years and see if you like your choice or if you are ready to try something different.

All the best!

[bawang]

I'm not sure what Bawang meant by no more time?

when i say that to him i mean

if a woman refuses a man for 20 years and suddenly shows interest when shes 39 would u trust her.the woman is also no longer fertile

you are spiritually unfertile, barren. you are becoming extremely unhealthy alongside aging and feel insecure about age and body. you want to return to something you did in ur childhood to feel comfort and reassurance and validation.

furthermore ur displaying of indecisiveness even now and nitpicking of that kung fu school means u probably will never visit that school, kung fu is not important to u.

your mental state reflects the state of michigan. delay aimlessness rot and decay and running out of time.

you cannot negotiate with time and laws of nature. you are aged, you are obese, you are unfit physically and mentally. you dont have years, you have 6-8 months to sort out all ur sh1t together.

[SoCo KungFu]

when i say that to him i mean

if a woman refuses a man for 20 years and suddenly shows interest when shes 39 would u trust her.the woman is also no longer fertile

you are spiritually unfertile, barren. you are becoming extremely unhealthy alongside aging and feel insecure about age and body. you want to return to something you did in ur childhood to feel comfort and reassurance and validation.

furthermore ur displaying of indecisiveness even now and nitpicking of that kung fu school means u probably will never visit that school, kung fu is not important to u.

your mental state reflects the state of michigan. delay aimlessness rot and decay and running out of time.

you cannot negotiate with time and laws of nature. you are aged, you are obese, you are unfit physically and mentally. you dont have years, you have 6-8 months to sort out all ur sh1t together.

The dude is only 30 years old. And he's already working out and reached a third of his target goal. He's got plenty of time.

[SoCo KungFu]

To the OP, in the area you are looking there's a number of schools. What made you choose the kung fu place over all the others. Particularly the 4 or 5 MMA gyms in the area? I ask because this kung fu school is essentially billing itself as MMA (kung fu, Judo). That's fine. I would just think that depending which art you choose, those places may be better equipped to train you for effectively, particularly in the grappling department.

More relevant to your question, did you go for a visit? What did you think? Do they spar in kung fu? Did they have free grappling in Judo? Honestly, depending on how long you've been in your normal work out routine, I'd be hesitant to tell you to jump into martial arts actually. Why? Because I'd be worried you'd divert limited hours of the day away from a routine which seems to be quite effective (you've stated losing 50lbs.) to something that will potentially hinder that goal of weight loss (though would fill other goals). In terms of art...if they spar then the kung fu would be fine. I think kung fu does a poor job of training basics but as a long term art, everyone here has been involved in some form of Chinese martial art, so its appeal is understandable. If you suspect at any point in the foreseeable future you may relocate, I'd go with something more standard like Judo. You won't be starting from scratch every move. Plus, I think grappling against resistant partners would do more to aid you personal fitness goals than doing kung fu forms.

[bawang]

The dude is only 30 years old. And he's already working out and reached a third of his target goal. He's got plenty of time.

at 30 year old u can still do it as a lame alternative lifestyle hobby, but ur not gonna achieve anything

[boxerbilly]

at 30 year old u can still do it as a lame alternative lifestyle hobby, but ur not gonna achieve anything

Achieve what? Mystical status? The biggest problem I can se is many schools are so children focused and for good reason, it pays the bills, that you may be working along side kids.


SoCo's, suggestion of Judo is a great idea. Especially if you do bounce for work from area to area.

[boxerbilly]

at 30 year old u can still do it as a lame alternative lifestyle hobby, but ur not gonna achieve anything

Bawang, it seems your lifestyle allows you to do nothing but train and live the MA life. I can think of nothing as boring. I'd rather spend my WHOLE day F-ing. But that's not going to happen. Hey man, it is what it is. Not everyone can or wants to devote most of their day to becoming great. And even if they did, odds are they will never be great. And should they ever achieve such status. It is fleeting.

For most guys beyond a certain age, its a way to stay in shape. Hopefully allow you to defend yourself should the need arise. Of course based on my experience, if it arises you pushed just as hard for it to happen. Seldom can you not leave. And if you can't why did you place yourself there?

Dashing the guys hopes for his desire to start again serves no purpose. You don't know his reasons and by no means do they have to be for the same reasons you train. So, even if it a hobby. So what? It offers many physical benefits and gets him off the couch.

[wiz cool c]

Bawang, it seems your lifestyle allows you to do nothing but train and live the MA life. I can think of nothing as boring. I'd rather spend my WHOLE day F-ing. .

he also might play computer games

[SoCo KungFu]

at 30 year old u can still do it as a lame alternative lifestyle hobby, but ur not gonna achieve anything

Achieve anything? Not a realistic goal. Achieve something? Sure he can. What is his goal? Its not to be mystical monk dong hang lo on the golden mountain. Nor does he seem to care about becoming the next title fighter. And frankly, no one is going to get that from kung fu these days anyways. He's trying to have some fun while getting his health back. As far as "achieving anything" if you can't fight semi competently in 3 months or less, you're being ripped off.

[bawang]

Achieve anything? Not a realistic goal. Achieve something? Sure he can. What is his goal? Its not to be mystical monk dong hang lo on the golden mountain. Nor does he seem to care about becoming the next title fighter. And frankly, no one is going to get that from kung fu these days anyways. He's trying to have some fun while getting his health back. As far as "achieving anything" if you can't fight semi competently in 3 months or less, you're being ripped off.

by achieving i mean the minimum of doing a form decently without looking retarded or mentally disturbed.

Dashing the guys hopes for his desire to start again serves no purpose. You don't know his reasons and by no means do they have to be for the same reasons you train.

i am speaking the plain truth. at 30 years old your youth is ending. if you wanna do a physical activity hobby you better put focus and energy into it. your testosterone is dropping every single day, there is no going back.

So, even if it a hobby. So what? It offers many physical benefits and gets him off the couch

its about making a mockery of colored fellers culture and history.